It takes years to build up trust, but only seconds to destroy it ~ Anonymous~
Every relationship, whether personal or professional, thrives on the steady foundation of trust. If faith in each other dwindles, the foundation shakes, develops cracks and finally crumbles.
In every walk of life, we build relationships. Whether it is a parent-child relationship, something special between two friends or a strictly business collaboration, all bonds are based on mutual trust. Often situations arise much against our wishes and beyond our reach, which tend to make us lose faith in each other. It may be easy to walk over a broken bond, ruthlessly, without caring for feelings, emotions and promised commitments. The challenge, however, remains how to restore the faith back and pick up the threads, once again, of your relationship.
Nothing is impossible if you are sincerely keen to build the bond you once had, before a crack appeared in your relationship. Just an undeterred will and some patience is needed. Let us see how:
Start Afresh: Once you have decided to make a new beginning together, it is best to start afresh by laying to rest the issue which caused the violation of trust between you two.
Communicate openly: It is imperative for you to openly thrash out the previous issues lest they raise their ugly head again. Communication is the key to convey your feelings to avoid going through pain again. The air needs to be cleared before you desire to move ahead and restore trust again.
Practice patience: Rome was not built in a day!! Once broken, trust takes time to rebuild. Be kind to yourself and the other person. Do not let your frustrations take the better of you and make matters worse.
Accept your fault: It takes two to tango!! Though you may feel you have been wronged, stop playing the blame game and work on improving on your won faults as well. Somewhere you too may have faltered and a little introspection may help you understand each other better. You must accept your share of the responsibility of the previous break of trust.
Mean what you say: Your words play a vital role in communication during restoring faith in your relationship. As you are already treading on fragile ground, you must mean what you say. Keep promises you keep and commit to something only if you can fulfil it. Be a man/ woman of your word by showing some integrity on your part.
Be emotionally available: To move together forward with the other person, you must make yourself emotionally available, by listening, sharing and encouraging each other for a better tomorrow. Do not take the other person for granted; instead make restoring faith your priority.
Seek Counselling : When you are attempting to rebuild trust, the relationship is hanging on a thread. Mistakes can still happen, fights can still arise and fireworks can begin again. It is recommended to take counselling help where you can be guided how to watch yourself and apply ways to improve the situation. Relatives and friends maybe there, but professional help is always better.
Trust is earned over the time and restoring it with determination and patience is not impossible. Restoring your own self worth and building hope, trust, faith towards a promising future, together, is possible .
After all , “Remember, we all stumble, every one of us.That is why it's a comfort to go hand in hand”. ~Emily Kimbrough~
Written on behalf of Phase 15
